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Re: The motherly instinct

Rich DeAugustinis — Mon, 15 May 2006 22:37:18 -0000

Robert,

Praise God you have the courage to share your personal challenges and courage so openly. I watched my mother slowly die of cancer in 1998...and I literally watched her pass from the physical bonds of this world. I am confident she left to be with her Lord and Savior, and is in a far better place today. Spend every waking second you can with her...take it from me, you will remember them and treasure them for the rest of your life. Make sure she knows how much you love her. Apologize for the things that have haunted you growing up. Tell her your thoughts, dreams and aspirations. Love her as much as you can, mate. I pray that your time together in the days ahead are blessed with clarity of thought and full of remembrance of happy times together. I also pray that she knows her Savior and is ready to meet Him. Thanks again for being so open to sharing your life with us...it is a poignant and wonderful reminder that we are all connected.

God bless.

Rich D

Re: The motherly instinct

Douglass Davidoff — Mon, 15 May 2006 15:52:39 -0000

Dear Robert,

I'm glad you are staying in Montana with your Mom. She outweighs all the people at every conference you'll attend or speak at -- combined.

I am 49 years old, and I am really quite fortunate that both my mom and dad are alive. Mom is 74 and my Dad will be 80 in a few weeks. They are active and engaged in their world and in their children and grandchildren.

Best memories of my Mom:
-- Often, the most recent memory. For example, I have been meditating often lately. Mom sent me some on-target meditation manuals.
-- Recently, I have been trying again to stay on top of my "to-do" list. I have the advantage of all the modern technology (I use Iambic's Agendus for Palm an d for Windows). But in the 1960s and 1970s, Mom had only yellow legal pads. To keep her family and her business running, she copied her to-do list two or three times a day onto a new sheet of paper. My Dad thought she was nuts (and I sort of agreed), but her to-do list and her regimen had a lot to do with her success. When I remembered those yellow legal pads a few months ago, I realized -- oh, maybe 40 years late -- what a great role model she was/is and how she maintained an active "to-do" list without any personal technology. They organized her busy life.
-- My Mom and Dad are inseperable. I have to remember the love they show for each other.

My dearest memory is of my mother's mother, who died eight years ago last week. My Grandma Bunnee in her last few decades became accepting and tolerant. Most of all, she encouraged me to reach higher. When cell phones first came out, I used to call her almost every night on my drive home. I miss her every day.

Keep holding your Mom's hand, Robert. She's still there for you and will be to the end of her days.

-- dtd

Re: The motherly instinct

whatsnext — Mon, 15 May 2006 00:40:36 -0000

you made the right decision. keep following your heart, it'll help you make the next right decision and the one after that. none of them are easy.
xxoo
BL

Re: The motherly instinct

Steve Senes — Sun, 14 May 2006 14:54:29 -0000

Hi Robert,
As I read through your posts about this matter, I can absolutely comprehend what you're going through. See, I lost my Mom this past November after a 3+ year battle with Cancer. Regarding your "should I stay or go" dilemma, you absolutely must stay with her. I say this because, even though she would tell you to go, you will be giving up precious moments with her that you will never regain. The night my Mom passed, I was supposed to work (I'm a musician, had a gig booked). I never cancel a gig. Never. I cancelled that night and am eternally grateful that I did. Being there with her when this happens will both bring you (and your family) a great deal of peace. But it will also be important to your Mom. She knows you're there, and she'll continue to know. So do what you know is right man.

Re: The motherly instinct

rainbo — Sun, 14 May 2006 12:54:28 -0000

Robert,

losing a loved one is always tough. Watching a loved one fade away is probably as tough as it gets. Know that my thoughts and those of thousands of others are with you as you suffer this. The only advice I can give you about Monday is do what your mom would have wanted. She will certainly understand.

{{Hugs}}
Ralph Friedman
a.k.a RainBo

Re: The motherly instinct

Poppy — Sun, 14 May 2006 07:51:22 -0000

I admire your ability to post what you feel, don't have a clue what you're talking about. 'Memories'--none I care to dwell on, about the woman who views both her children as 'opportunities.' Every meal had something wrong with it, happy only when we were walking out of the room, didn't care for any gifts, always handed back to me, zero interest in us; nothing was enough. Last conversation she said I used to be pretty --closest thing to a compliment, my entire life. That was two months ago, I've kept the phone plugged into computer ever since. If you grew up with a mother whom you knew loved you: you are Extremely lucky. The other kind: takes work to erase the memories. Unasked for advice: take the exact total time it takes to grieve, not a minute--or anyone else's
time-table--less.

Re: The motherly instinct

Dmad — Sat, 13 May 2006 22:58:30 -0000

Robert,

From personal experience my opinion is you should not go to that conference. Any organization or person that would not support you in that decision is not worth supporting. Like another poster said, how many more times will you have to hold your mother's hand? vs how many more conferences and speaking opportunities will you have? Do let what may have occured in the past affect any decision you make now. These memories will be with you the rest of your life. The confernece? In a year no one will care.

Re: The motherly instinct

Julie — Sat, 13 May 2006 14:12:25 -0000

My fondest memory of my mom is her putting albums on the record player and we would dance and sing until we were out of breath and lost our voices.

Re: The motherly instinct

Harmon — Sat, 13 May 2006 14:11:33 -0000

Scoble -- sorry to read about your Mom. Good luck as you deal with this sad part of life; my thoughts are with you and your family.

Re: The motherly instinct

Sat, 13 May 2006 13:52:52 -0000

It's so hard. I lost my Mom last year, right before Mother's Day.
Heartfelt good wishes to you and your family.

Re: The motherly instinct

mjb — Sat, 13 May 2006 13:40:56 -0000

Moms have a tendency to put the interests of their kids ahead of their own :-) It doesn't always mean it's the right thing to do for either party. Whatever time you can spend with her is precious -- the conferences will always be there to attend in the future.

Re: The motherly instinct

Peter Clayton — Sat, 13 May 2006 12:20:21 -0000

Hi Robert,
I was so looking forward to seeing you at Syndicate - but I share the sentiments of most of those responding to the personal decision you need to make. Obviously, you are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your mother. I can't speak for IDC, but everyone I know attending the conference will certainly understand, and respect your absence. Our prayers are with you, Robert.

Peter Clayton

Re: The motherly instinct

Jim — Sat, 13 May 2006 11:53:48 -0000

Robert:

Thank you for sharing your experience. I lost my Mom four years ago. She died in her sleep and everyone tells me that's the best way to go. There is no best way - they all suck. I never had the chance to tell her goodbye, but then I didn't have to see her waste away like many do. The bottom line is that it's tough to lose anyone you love. Fortunately I told my Mom "I love you" at the end of a phone call two days before she died. They turned out to be the last words she ever heard me say.

To anyone reading this: tell the people you love that you love them. They need to hear it and you need to say it.

Re: The motherly instinct

Sereni — Sat, 13 May 2006 11:31:39 -0000

Wow, that's so real. I myself am pregnant right now, am expecting a baby boy. I hope I would get to have such a close relationship with my son as you seem to have with your mother.

Re: The motherly instinct

deannamcneil — Sat, 13 May 2006 11:01:18 -0000

I really don't know how you managed to maintain all these posts in the middle of a very challenging period in life. We all face our parent's aging and eventually losing them and it is a very personal journey.

Someone already said it earlier regarding the decision to go to NYC: listen to your gut. Profesionally, this is not a hit at all.

You remain close in the prayers of others for comfort and peace.

Re: The motherly instinct

jcspl — Sat, 13 May 2006 10:20:06 -0000

I do agree with Mr. James:

"Thank you Mr. Scoble for having the guts/courage/generosity to share all this with us. Alberta says your Mom is proud of you.
She’s got a huge reason to be!"

Hold her hand, talk to her; she will listen. Tell her that people from all over the world are thinking of her and her son.

Solidarity is such a nice trace of humanity.

jcl

Re: The motherly instinct

Jack Yan — Sat, 13 May 2006 09:28:43 -0000

Robert, this is a touching subject and I had to cover it on live TV on Friday, talking about my Mum who passed 12 years ago. Far too soon. I know she would want you to go to New York. However, if I were you, I would stay by her side. I just think you need to be there, to know that you were there for as long as you could be.
¶ While I still feel connected to my Mum’s spirit, there are still days, after 12 years, where I feel I have lost an entire limb. I know people are consoling you but I have to be honest and say the feeling of loss does not disappear easily. These last days will be important to you.

Re: The motherly instinct

Ken — Sat, 13 May 2006 08:26:26 -0000

Mom went through 8 years battling cancer. So did the rest of the family from outside. It ended badly. I can't think of how it could end well.

Mom introduced me to hockey when I was around 10. We'd sit in front of the TV together and watch every single NY Ranger game together all through my teens. We went to several games and practices together.

One other was when she was quite ill. I was home that day and taking a nap. She came to me an lay down beside me and asked me to hold her. She told me she was "so scared". I'm glad I was home that day.

Whew. Gotta go find the tissues.
Ken

Re: The motherly instinct

Darren Straight — Sat, 13 May 2006 04:19:13 -0000

Glad to see you’ve made up your mind, it’s for the best.

Best wishes to your mum and you and the rest of the family.

Re: The motherly instinct

Jeff Barr — Fri, 12 May 2006 23:58:27 -0000

Hi Robert,

In times like these, don't think of what you lose, remember all that you had, all that you gained, and treasure those memories. Pass them along to your children and keep your mom alive in their hearts. Celebrate the fact that she had a good life.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Re: The motherly instinct

Chris — Fri, 12 May 2006 23:52:07 -0000

Robert, could you maybe let your mom witness one of your talks? Do the Syndicate keynote over LiveMeeting from her hospital room. Let her see what she's so proud of.

Wishing you and mom the best...

Re: The motherly instinct

Sachin — Fri, 12 May 2006 23:07:30 -0000

should have read:
“Don’t be afraid of farewells, a good-bye is necessary before you can meet again, and meeting again after moments or lifetimes is certain for those who are in love.”

Re: The motherly instinct

Sachin — Fri, 12 May 2006 22:50:36 -0000

"Don't be afraid of farewells, a good-bye is necessary before you can meet again, and meeting again after moments are lifetimes is certain for those who are in love."
~Richard Bach in Illusion.

Good Luck!

Re: The motherly instinct

Kami Watson Huyse — Fri, 12 May 2006 22:27:09 -0000

My Nonnie, who is even now battling as staff infection from her last chemo treatment, was always like a mother to me. Every summer I would go with her and Papaw for a month or two and have a grand time.

Once we were hiking and they warned me not to run down the hill. Well, run I did and ended up face-first on a dirt road. They thought I was dead, but I just got up and kept going.

I guess we all think that we can keep up and go, but at some point the end of the road comes. Nonnie isn't there yet, she is still fighting on, but I know that it will come someday.

Glad you are taking the time to make it special for yourself and her.

My prayers are with you.

Re: The motherly instinct

Dan Perry — Fri, 12 May 2006 21:28:31 -0000

Robert,

I cannot tell you how much your comments touched me. Thank you for sharing your feelings. We need to remember how important we are to each other. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers.