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Livia — Sat, 13 May 2006 07:37:37 -0000

She loves you and you love her. That's what matters. Nothing will ever change this and you will never lose her.

All the best.

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len bullard — Fri, 12 May 2006 11:10:34 -0000

Yes, it sucks. How to say goodbye: whatever she most liked you to do and enjoyed watching you doing or knowing you do, do that.

My father taught all of his sons to play guitar and played with us. While he was making his way into the next world, three of us sat in the next room and played our guitars and all of the songs he loved for three hours. Five minutes after we stopped, so did he. It won't not hurt. The depth of the hurt is equal to the depth of the love, but it will give you a memory that is better than tears.

Later on, you will find that you can talk to her whenever you wish and hear her voice. Don't debate the science of that; take it on faith. It is true.

My deepest condolences.

len

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Paula Gregorowicz — Fri, 12 May 2006 10:34:20 -0000

Thank you for being human and courageous enough to take a break from regularly scheduled programming to share what's going on for you. I think the human aspect of life gets lost so often, especially in the realm of big big business, and your choice to be authentic is an important model for us all.

You question:
"What would you do differently if you had only 1,000 breaths to take?"

Is an outstanding coaching question... and my guess is that many of us would choose a different path for the next 1,000 breaths if we wrapped out minds around the fact that it could be our last 1,000 breaths. Who REALLY knows.

Thoughts & prayers go out to you....

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Matt O'Neill — Fri, 12 May 2006 09:53:40 -0000

Hi Robert,

We don't know each other very well, apart from a couple of emails. However, like so many others, I'm thinking of you.

All the best,

Matt

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Donna Tocci — Fri, 12 May 2006 09:31:39 -0000

Robert - I'd missed your blog for a few days, but read Maryam's this morning and read her touching tribute to your mom. You are blessed with a wonderfully close family. That is nothing to take for granted and yes, tell them at any chance you get how much they mean to you. On your blog, on the phone, in person - however you can. No apologies ever necessary for that. My thoughts and prayers will be with you, Maryam and your whole family during this time.

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Ken — Fri, 12 May 2006 09:07:41 -0000

We're listening, Robert. Keep writing it down and letting it out. Thank you for sharing and reminding us of just what it is we have.
Ken

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tibo — Fri, 12 May 2006 08:12:55 -0000

Robert, I Went home still thinking about your mom in hospital since I also have some close friends & colleagues who recently lost their mom during the same long terrible pain (please excuse my English if anything seems akward, I'm French). Well, there's not much thing you can do to help but as in many situation I always felt southing to listen to some music. So I thought that my way of saying I care would be to decide on a short thinking-about-loved-ones-when-they're-in-pain kit. It's here : http://www.mobjazz.com/2006...

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mark o'brien — Fri, 12 May 2006 07:23:07 -0000

so sorry to hear of this, robert. you're in my prayers. very tough thing to walk/crawl through.

mark o'brien (pastor)

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Jason Untulis — Fri, 12 May 2006 06:08:12 -0000

"Go and hug your family. It sounds so stupid to say that usually"...

No, it doesn't. Everyone should do that every fscking day. Sometimes you can predict someone important to you leaving, but more often than not, they are gone before you know it. So tell them you love them every time you can because you never know if it will be the last time you get the chance...

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Lee H — Fri, 12 May 2006 05:53:18 -0000

Robert, if our thoughts and prayers are helping through these difficult times, know that there's a lot of people around the globe who are wishing that the hurt is eased, are thinking of all of you and praying.

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Rory Donnelly — Fri, 12 May 2006 05:41:46 -0000

Robert, I only just picked up on your situation through your comment on Sean Alexander's blog, who as you know has had a bad time recently. My father went into a respite home last Monday after a serious decline in his Alzheimer's condition. He has no short-term memory any more, and forgets I've been to see him 15 minutes after I've left. He is a big man in all the meanings of the word, and despite his mental deterioration, he is in peak physical condition for his 76 years on this earth.

We must be strong for those others around us at times like these, and try to remember the good times. My thoughts are with you during these trying times.

Rory.

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Philip Hodgetts — Fri, 12 May 2006 04:53:30 -0000

Robert, just another well-wisher among many. I cried reading your blog tonight. Right now I'm in the opposite position - my mom is visiting from Australia and I'm enjoying her company while I can. Mother can be the most annoying people in our lives (sometimes) but it's now time for me to enjoy her company while I can. Reading what you're going through makes me realise just how precious the time I have with her is.

Crying is good therapy, to be recommended.

Philip

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Tim Draayer — Fri, 12 May 2006 04:30:25 -0000

There is absolutely no reason to apologize, Robert. God be with you.

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Stefano Demiliani — Fri, 12 May 2006 03:09:53 -0000

Robert, I see this bad news only today. I'd like to send you all my support for this terrible moment, I can totally undertand your "feeling bad".
Please bring all your forces and energy to start your new days, and cry if you need... it's human.
My heart is with you.

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Chris P — Fri, 12 May 2006 02:30:35 -0000

Hi Robert,

Sorry to hear about your Mom.

Went through much the same with mine last winter, though much more quickly.

Cry when you need to.

Just remember to pull over, if you are driving.

Be with friends or family as much as you can.

You don't need to be alone just now.

Playing with kids and pets helps too.

Remember to keep hydrated.

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William — Fri, 12 May 2006 02:26:09 -0000

Hi Robert,

Sorry for the late phone call tonight but I was in Seattle for my MS interviews and I was checking your blog for an update on your mom before I turned in for the night. I wanted to let you know I was thinking about your mom and your family today. I am so sorry to hear about the recent news in the last 24 hours. My prayers go out to your family and thank you for sharing during these difficult times.

While my day did not go as I hoped you have reminded me and many others of the importance of family. Your blog has touched so many people all over the world that you have truly made a difference in many people’s lives.

Sincerely,
William

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Samantha Murphy — Fri, 12 May 2006 02:17:07 -0000

Robert, I don't know what to say or where to start.
The fact that your mother raised you makes her a beautiful person in my eyes. Clearly you are a person who lives soulfully and honestly and I have such admiration for you!

Just remember that it is hardest for those who are left, not the leaving. I think that brings some comfort. I'm truly sorry for your loss and I thank God you have Maryam and that she's arriving tomorrow.

Lots of love and peace in this difficult time. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Samantha

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Geoff Taylor — Fri, 12 May 2006 01:33:40 -0000

I don't know what to say. Most of us are strangers but we all deal with similar pains. My wife just lost her grandmother recently. One day she's up and smiling and we're all having fun playing bingo with her and her friends at the senior care home she lived at. The next day she falls and she's gone in ten minutes. I don't know what to say. Sitting at the funeral home, watching everyone sitting around so upset... I tried to mention what little funny or warm stories I knew about her in the short two years I'd been around her to cheer folks up a tiny bit. But the tears all came back. It's hard, so hard. I still have both of my parents but they're getting up there in years. My Dad celebrated his 70th this year. I try not to think about it. A good friend lost his mother last year to cancer. His dad died this year. My friend is only 30. I can't imagine. It's so hard for us to let go.

Love those you have. Cherish every day with them. And put everything you have into creating new memories with your friends and family to enjoy. It's all we can do, but I think that's plenty of a reason to always look forward to tomorrow.

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shel israel — Fri, 12 May 2006 01:07:57 -0000

It may be very small consolation, but you are posting some of your best blogs ever on this subject. I think it's because you are touching an an awful experience that most everyone goes through.

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ramsblog — Fri, 12 May 2006 00:09:49 -0000

Hi Robert,
Our prayers are with you all. May God gives you all the strength. Believe and Pray for God's will and his terms - MIRACLES do happen. God Bless!

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Cath Bray — Thu, 11 May 2006 23:34:02 -0000

Bless you for your wise words of wisdom: talk with your family, let them know your wishes, hug them. Yes, yer right: we don't like this stuff until we really need to deal with it. Thanks fer kicking so many butts today!
I hope all the good wishes and prayers from all around the small world help ease your mom's trials and your family's pain.
My best goes out to you and yours!

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Prokofy — Thu, 11 May 2006 23:04:37 -0000

I'm so sorry to read you are going through this with your Mom, and hope that blogging through it will help you and your family cope. I'm so glad you got a chance to squeeze your Mom's hand one last time around Mother's Day -- it's better than any Internet.

Having lost my daughter, mother, father, grandparents, friends, I could only say, death itself, by itself, isn't really the worst thing. It's actually peaceful, by itself. It's everything before and everything after that's so hard. So don't be afraid of the actual death of your loved one, it's more about preparing yourself for afterwards.

Try to take as many pictures as you can, write down everything in a journal, a private one, not just a blog, even if you don't even look at it now, you'll want to later.

May God hold you all in the palm of His hand!

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keithcombs — Thu, 11 May 2006 22:48:05 -0000

My parents and grandparents have been gone for what seems like an eternity. I miss them very much. I feel your pain. Our prayers are for you and your family.

Kind regards,

Keith

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David Smith — Thu, 11 May 2006 22:28:18 -0000

Lost my Mom to a stroke a little over a year ago...have an idea what you're going through, and just had yet another cry - any age is too early to be a motherless child (I'm 58, she was 88). She didn't awaken, and I'm glad that your Mom is even somewhat aware of the love you and your family are giving her. Our prayers are with you and yours.

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tom_streeter — Thu, 11 May 2006 21:59:24 -0000

Oh, I was hoping things wouldn't be this bad. Your mom, you, and your family are in my prayers.

Leave nothing unsaid. It will help.

If hospice is available, take advantage of it.

Help her have a soft landing. And know we are all pulling for you.